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Resources and Links

Updated November 19, 2011

 

Understand that this is a highly selective and largely personal list. There are thousands of other resources out there.

 

Updates

      All links checked and broken links removed or revised as of November 19, 2011.

 

Please report broken links or suggest new sites to Menletter@aol.com.

 

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Gatherings, Retreats, and Trainings

General: Portals and Publications

Ritual

Body and Mind

General sites devoted to men's health

Prostate cancer detection and treatment

Sex, Viagra, etc.

Miscellaneous health sites

Families and Fathers

Divorce and Custody

Society and Community

Mentoring

Voices

Spirit

 

 

 

Gatherings, Retreats, and Trainings

 

NOTICE

My selection of gatherings or other men's events is a personal choice. I've generally tried to list more modest, non-commercial, non-profit enterprises with no ties to larger organizations.

 

With any gathering or men's event, you would do well to find out more via the organization's website (including any links to sponsoring organizations) and by consulting Google and Wikipedia.

 

Ongoing Trainings and Retreats

 

Circles of Air, Circles of Stone (http://www.questforvision.com/). Sparrow Hart runs vision quests, men's programs, adventures of the spirit. He is co-founder and current leader of the Men's Wisdom Council. Sparrow's Mythic Warrior program trains men in leadership in a nine-weekend program over nine months. You can get more details on Mythic Warrior or any of Sparrow's other programs at his Web site or by e-mail: sparrow@together.net.

 

The School of Natural Wonder (http://www.questvision.org/ for descriptions and schedules). Flynn Johnson and Jill Neitlich run or co-run vision quests and (under "Soul Intensives") a weekend program on transition into elderhood, and a weekend rite of passage for boys 13-17.

 

Yearly and Semiannual Gatherings

 

The Men's Wisdom Council: http://www.rowecenter.org/pages.php?name=MWC.

The Connecticut Men's Gathering: http://www.comega.org/

The Massachusetts Men's Gathering: http://www.massmensgathering.org

Mainely Men: http://www.mainelymen.org/

Maine Coast Men: http://www.mainecoastmen.net/ 

The Granite Men's Gathering (New Hampshire): http://www.granitemen.com/

The Rhode Island Men's Gathering: http://rhodeislandmensgathering.org/

Minnesota Men's Conference: http://hiddenwine.com/MMC/index.html

Great Mother and New Father Conference: http://greatmotherconference.com/

California Men's Gathering: http://www.thecmg.org/

Chesapeake Men's Gathering, Darlington, MD: http://www.menswork.org/


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General: Portals and Publications

Men's Studies Press. A relatively new publisher of journals and books on men's studies. Well worth a look.

http://www.mensstudies.com/

 

One Web site seems to stand out as a gateway, or portal, to access not only a rich amount of its own material but links to many, many other sites of interest to men (including Menletter): The Men's Center (http://themenscenter.com/). The coverage is astounding.

 

Menstuff is a massive, mostly noncommercial site with many noted authors. They get something like 100,000 visitors a day and have been around for over a decade.

http://menstuff.org/

 

Mensissues - an extensively indexed and categorized listing of articles on men's issues, drawn from Menstuff.org.

http://mensissues.us

 

See also the sites for men's groups, below under Society and Community.

 

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Ritual

Sweat lodges

http://www.welcomehome.org/rob/sweat/sweat.html

 

Breathwork

http://www.grof-holotropic-breathwork.net/, http://www.eupsychia.com/IB.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holotropic_Breathwork

 

Burning Man

The Truth about Burning Man - One guy's experience

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jay-michaelson/the-truth-about-burning-m_b_279464.html


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Body and Mind

 

General sites devoted to men's health

 

The first two sites seem especially good.

 

Men's Health ( http://menshealth.com/ ) is the Web presence of the monthly print magazine. On the surface, it's irreverent and raunchy, but it never slides into pornography. The advice on sex, health, exercise, and nutrition is usually well-thought-out and well-researched.

 

The Men's Health Network ( http://www.menshealthnetwork.org/ ) is aimed at both physicians and the general (male) public. It includes an offer for an e-mail newsletter that is always informative.

 

Men's Health Issues - A small site dedicated to heart disease and prostate problems. Very good coverage for its size, with some useful links.

http://www.manssage.com/thesaurus/Mens-Health-Issues.html

 

The Male Health Center - Fairly comprehensive information source, sponsored in part by Amazon.com.

http://www.malehealthcenter.com/

 

Medline Plus, a site of the National Institutes of Health (US), has a "Men's Health Topics" section.

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/menshealth.html

 

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Prostate cancer detection and treatment

 

A resource site for prostate cancer. http://www.healthopedia.com/prostate-cancer/ 

 

What To Do If Prostate Cancer Strikes: A Helpbook for Patients. A brief summary of prostate cancer treatments. http://www.cancerresearch.org/prostatebook.html

 

PSA Rising Blog. A Weblog devoted to prostate cancer, with categorized entries. http://www.psa-rising.com/blog/

 

Zero Cancer. Articles and statistics; advice.

http://zerocancer.org/

 

Prostate Cancer Foundation. Extensive site with on-line booklets, an e-mail newsletter, and so on. You can get blue wrist bands for a small donation.

http://www.prostatecancerfoundation.org/

 

Hormone/vaccine treatment for recurrent prostate cancer

http://www.nih.gov/news/pr/jul2005/nci-25.htm

 

The latest on surgery versus watchful waiting.

http://content.nejm.org/cgi/content/short/352/19/1977

 

Prostate Cancer resource from the National Institutes of Health

http://www.nci.nih.gov/cancerinfo/types/prostate/

 

Dangers of watchful waiting in prostate cancer - these links are very important. Supposedly slow-growing cancers become aggressive after 10 to 15 years.

http://jama.ama-assn.org/cgi/content/short/291/22/2713

 

Prostate cancer - do-it-yourself prevention

http://www.guardian.co.uk/international/story/0,3604,999787,00.html

 

Prostate Cancer Calculator figures your chances based on your PSA and stage.

http://www.prostatecalculator.org/

 

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Sex, Viagra, etc.

 

Everyday chemicals contain endocrine disruptors leading to birth defects. One in 125 boys is born with a urethral defect called Hypospadias. Link is to a summary and a video presentation given at Johns Hopkins School of Public Health.

http://www.jhsph.edu/clf/Features/theo.html

 

"Home Is Where the Heat Is" - article in Best Life: "Deeper love! Louder moans! Wilder romps in all her rooms! Hotter monogamy is simply a matter of mind over monotony." Best Life is Men's Health for the - uh - more mature male.

http://bestlifeonline.com/wheretheheatis/index.html

 

Let's Talk About Sex. An extensive categorized and alphabetical listing of men's sex concerns.

http://letstalkaboutsex.org

 

Male biological clock? Older men may have lowered fertility and may be more likely to father children with autism or schizophrenia.

http://tinyurl.com/22etbe

 

Premature ejaculation - a sex therapist's perspective. Advocates a combination of pharmaceuticals and therapy.

http://www.blackwell-synergy.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2006.00238.x

 

Viagra use among men having sex with men: increased risky behavior

http://www.amjmed.com/article/PIIS0002934305000860/fulltext

 

Infertility becoming a male problem

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4118976.stm

 

Do Women Really Want a Male Birth Control Pill? Glenn Sacks's opinion.

http://www.glennsacks.com/do_women_really.htm
 

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Miscellaneous health sites

 

Best Life magazine's New Year's resolutions for men. Unusual list of suggestions and resources; worth checking out anytime.

http://tinyurl.com/3d9zx8

 

Exercise lowers risk of death by 50 to 70%; results are similar for Caucasians and African Americans (for which information was previously lacking).

http://tinyurl.com/ysrhjn

 

Testicular Cancer Awareness Week. General information about detection and treatment of testicular cancer. You can sign up for a monthly e-mail reminder for doing a self-examination.

http://tcaw.org

 

Breast cancer self-exam reminder for men, especially over-60 and overweight.

http://tinyurl.com/27e9hl

 

Prostate Online. An excellent source for information on prostate cancer

http://www.prostate-online.org/

 

Testicular cancer awareness site

http://www.keepyoureyeontheball.org/

 

Dairy and its role in preventing diabetes in men.

http://www.medpagetoday.com/tbindex.cfm?tbid=1007&topicid=13 

 

Domestic violence and music therapy. Examines the power of using popular music, something people already listen to, as a way for people to express their feelings. Includes examples of therapeutic messages in popular music as well as original music by Freudian Slip, therapeutic rock band.

http://www.enterthefreudianslip.com/music_therapy_and_domestic_violence.htm

 

Gender differences in benefits of alcohol consumption

http://tinyurl.com/2jhcvn

 

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Families and Fathers

Fatherstuff. An extensive listing of links and references about fathers and fathering.

http://menstuff.org/fatherstuff/current.html or http://fatherstuff.org. Includes Kidstuff, too - for fathers and issues directly relating to children.

 

Women in Racing. For fathers and daughters who might be interested in competing in male-dominated sports. Lists over 1,450 women who race or have raced against men.

www.womeninracing.org

 

Fathers and Families site. From the mission statement: "Fathers and Families protects the child's right to the love and care of both parents. We seek shared parenting for the children of divorced and never-married parents, with equal rights and responsibilities for fathers and mothers."

http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/site/index.php

 

Just for Dads. A site dedicated to fathers and fathering. Seems to have gone inactive.

www.just4dads.com

 

Fatherhood (http://fatherhood.about.com/) is a big site, updated frequently. It's part of the Parenting & Family pages of a very large general-information site called About.com.

 

US Department of Human Services Fatherhood Initiative (http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/) endeavors to support and strengthen the roles of fathers in families. A fair amount of governmentese.

 

The National Center for Fathering (http://www.fathers.com/) is a colorful and rich site with thoughtful articles. You'll see articles on fathers and daughters, fathering tips, urban fathering, and so on - even a Father of the Year essay contest.

 

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Divorce and Custody

A Man's Feelings: Finding Closure After Divorce by Michael Eads. Deals with emotional upheaval and rebuilding of self. Link is to Eads's website with excerpts from the book and ordering information.

www.bookondivorce.com

 

Dads Voices: Still a Dad (http://www.proactive-coach.com/divorce/fathers) has links to resources and support for divorced dads, including support and advice. The second edition of the book Still a Dad has just been published.

 

Leving's Divorce Magazine. On-line resource for legal, parenting, lifestyle matters. It goes beyond just the legal and child visitation issues to address the whole (divorced) man.

http://www.levingsdivorcemagazine.com/

 

Dads America. A comprehensive site on fathers' rights.

http://www.dadsamerica.org/da.html

 

American Coalition for Fathers and Children. An advocate of shared parenting.

http://www.acfc.org/

 

Fathers4Justice. A new rights organization for justice in family law. Chapters in the UK and US.

http://www.fathers-4-justice.org/

 

Many of the other men's sites have links to divorce issues.


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Society and Community

Anti Misandry - A very large site dedicated to "curing feminist indoctrination." Blogs, chats, resources, and much more. A bit over the top sometimes but seems to back up its claims with checkable facts.

http://antimisandry.com/

 

Feminist Lies Exposed - a sub-site for Anti Misandry (above). Offers counter-evidence for feminist claims about equal pay, domestic violence, media bias, etc. Read and judge with care; most of it seems solid.

http://tinyurl.com/Antimisandry-Fem-Lies

 

A Conscientious Objector in the Gender War. Wendy McElroy's 2003 essay is provocative and concludes: "The only way out of the quagmire is to abandon convoluted social theory and return to common sense."

http://tinyurl.com/39n5vc

 

A British take on the gender wars as depicted in advertising.

http://www.weeklygripe.co.uk/a260.asp

 

"Dissing" men: the new gender war. An Australian article on gender wars in the media. Based on a PhD thesis.

http://www.onlineopinion.com.au/view.asp?article=4907

 

Angry Harry has a few things to say about what he calls a "permanent" gender war and concludes that equality between men and women is not achievable.

http://www.angryharry.com/esAPermanentGenderWar.htm

 

World's most dangerous jobs. Guess what - they're the jobs men do. Latest (2008) stats.

http://tinyurl.com/WMDJobs

 

Differences in Frequency of Violence and Reported Injury Between Reciprocal and Nonreciprocal Intimate Partner Violence. A study conducted by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention.

http://www.ajph.org/cgi/content/short/AJPH.2005.079020v1

 

Relationstuff. An extensively indexed and categorized listing of links to articles on men's relationships.

http://relationstuff.org

 

Violence against men - A selection of important sites:

References Examining Assaults by Women on Their Spouses or Male Partners:

An Annotated Bibliography - From the site summary: "This bibliography examines 256 scholarly investigations: 201 empirical studies and 55 reviews and/or analyses, which demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. The aggregate sample size in the reviewed studies exceeds 253,500." From the Department of Psychology, California State University, Long Beach, Cal.

http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm

Battered Men, a reprint of an article in Pacific Sun:

http://www.menstuff.org/issues/byissue/batteredmen.html

Battered Men (many articles, links, and resources):

http://www.batteredmen.com/

Equal Justice Foundation:

http://www.ejfi.org/DV/dv-6.htm

Male Victims of Domestic Abuse:

http://www.pitt.edu/~frieze/maleabuse.htm

S.A.F.E (Stop Abuse for Everyone):

http://www.safe4all.org/

Male Abuse, a site by Women Against Domestic Violence:

http://www.wadv.org/maleabuse.htm

 

Everyman. From the Web site: "We believe our society includes entrenched, often unconscious sexism against both genders, but that only the sexism against women has so far been generally recognized. Everyman seeks to bring balance through authentic analysis, disclosure and insight." The site includes a forum and articles. Back issues of the print version, Everyman Journal (which ended in 2005), can be ordered. The site is based in Canada.

http://everyman.org/

 

Man-o-pause, a blog site by Nicolette Beard dedicated to "Providing midlife men a place to breathe." Interesting posts and useful links to other sites. The main panel contains the latest blogs; scroll down to "Categories" in the right column to see how Beard organizes her topics.

http://www.man-o-pause.com

 

Male Junction at 3SmartCubes. 3SmartCubes is a site of IQ and personality tests. The Male Junction section is devoted to tests for and about men. The tests are fun and often insightful - what kind of car matches your personality, how well you understand women, etc.

http://www.3smartcubes.com/pages/malejunction.asp

 

Angry Harry. An edgy site from the UK, devoted to men's rights.

http://www.angryharry.com/

 

National Coalition of Free Men. "MISSION: National Coalition of Free Men (NCFM) is a non-profit educational & civil rights organization that looks at the ways sex discrimination affects men and boys. NCFM publishes "Transitions: Journal of Men's Perspectives" six times a year and sponsors various activities according to the interests of its volunteers."

http://www.ncfm.org/

 

Battered men - myths and facts

http://www.batteredmen.com/batfact.htm

 

Male victims of domestic abuse

http://www.noexcuse4abuse.org/

http://www.ndvh.org/

 

A lovely essay on sex and gender

http://www.city-journal.org/html/9_4_a3.html

 

A Web site from a New Jersey group

http://men-to-men.themenscenter.com/

 

A very good Australian men's site.

http://members.ozemail.com.au/~irgeo/amp.htm


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Mentoring

A mentoring site

http://www.mentoring.org/

 

The Mentoring Resources site (http://www.mentors.ca/mentor.html) appears to be extensive.


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Voices

Many of us "grew up" in the men's movement at the feet of Robert Bly, James Hillman, Michael Meade, and others. Many of them have their own Web sites or Web site about them.

 

Robert Bly: Poet, translator, leader of men's groups, maybe the founder of all modern men's work. http://www.robertbly.com/

 

James Hillman: Jungian psychologist who rebelled against the system. He died in 2011 at 85. No site of his own, but this has some useful information: http://mythosandlogos.com/Hillman.html

 

Michael Meade: Mythologist and tireless worker with youth. Michael runs an organization called Mosaic Voices: http://www.mosaicvoices.org/. Also see: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_J._Meade

 

Sam Keen: One of the early voices, beginning with his classic, Fire in the Belly. http://www.samkeen.com/

 

Sparrow Hart: Sparrow's Circles of Air, Circles of Stone (http://www.questforvision.com/) runs vision quests, men's programs, adventures of the spirit. He is co-founder and current leader of the Men's Wisdom Council. Sparrow's Mythic Warrior program trains men in leadership in a nine-weekend program over nine months. You can get more details on Mythic Warrior or any of Sparrow's other programs at his Web site or by e-mail: sparrow@together.net.

 

John Dore: John was a co-founder of the Men's Wisdom Council and has "retired" to Arizona, continuing his work in spiritual retreats, psychological intensives, guided self-healing, breathwork, emotional release work, and so on: http://www.johndore.com/.

 

Warren Farrell: Author of several books on men and society, including "The Myth of Male Power" and "Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say." His latest book is "Why Men Earn More," debunking many myths about pay inequities. http://warrenfarrell.com/ An interview with Farrell from 1997: http://www.menweb.org/svofarre.htm

 

Allan Chinen: Interview with Allan Chinen ("Beyond the Hero"):

http://www.menweb.org/chineniv.htm

 

Rich Zubaty: Sort of an edgier version of Warren Farrell. His "What Men Know that Women Don't" will anger, irritate, and inspire you. Excerpt on Web site; book is worth getting. http://happyfool.therudeguy.com/


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Spirit

Many men are discovering or rediscovering a spirituality that brings meaning to their lives and sometimes to the religions they may practice.

 

Don Miguel Ruiz: His book "The Four Agreements" encapsulates the Toltec teachings begun by Carlos Castaneda and makes them applicable to daily life. http://www.miguelruiz.com/

 

Brad Warner: "Hardcore Zen: Punk Rock, Monster Movies, and the Truth About Reality." Acerbic, potty-mouthed, and thoroughly readable account of an Akron, Ohio, punk rocker's journey into Soto Zen.

Home Page: http://homepage.mac.com/doubtboy/   

Blog: http://hardcorezen.blogspot.com/


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